Recommendable books in domestic discipline!

Here are some books that relate to the general ideas of Domestic Discipline. There are three different categories. Clicking on any book image, title or author will take you directly to Barnes & Noble, where you can purchase the book that interests you.


The following three category links take you to different places on this  Books page, not to the Barnes & Noble website:

1. Submission from a Christian Perspective

2. Masculine and feminine energies

3. General Spanking



The “General Spanking” section contains a very small amount of nudity that is both tasteful and reasonably artistic. However, you have been warned. Don’t go there if you don’t want to see it.

1. Submission from a Christian Perspective

Fascinating Womanhood
by Helen Andelin

This bestselling classic has already brought new happiness and life to millions of marriages, and now Andelin offers timeless wisdom, practical advice, and old-fashioned values for today’s fascinating woman. Learn how to awaken a man’s deepest feelings of love, eight rules for a successful relationship, how to rekindle your love life, and more.

Finding the Hero in Your Husband: Surrendering the Way God Intended
by Julianna Slattery

After feeling the same frustrations as many other married women, Christian wife, mother, and psychologist Julianna Slattery has come to a conclusion about Christian men: “Each one of them is a hero.” She presents meaningful insights into modern Christian relationships and shows Christian women how they can use the power they have in their relationships to encourage their husbands’ potential instead of destroying it.

A Woman After God’s Own Heart; Following His Design for Becoming a Woman of Excellence
by Elizabeth George

Elizabeth George shares practical, scriptural insights on how you can pursue God’s priorities concerning your husband, your children, your home, your walk with the Lord, and your ministry.

The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with a Man
by Laura Doyle

Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew — and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back.

The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle’s model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband’s choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy.

The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who’s Right for You
by Laura Doyle

A Surrendered Single doesn’t have to look for Mr. Right — she attracts him. The principles presented in The Surrendered Single are simple: When you try to control who asks you out and when a man will call, or if you try to corner him into a commitment, you drive him away. When you let him woo you instead, you enjoy the pleasure of being pursued. You feel confident and feminine. Dating becomes fun again. Marriage follows. You stop going it alone. Whether you’re recovering from a breakup or a divorce, are on the dating scene, or want your romance to deepen. The Surrendered Single will bring you the relationship you desire with a man you love — and who loves you.

Me? Obey Him?
by Elizabeth Rice Handford

Elizabeth Rice Handford uses God’s Word to present the reason for a wife’s subjection to her husband. She shows how the husband and wife relationship is the foundation for a happy and godly home. And at the same time, she shows how a submissive wife is not an inferior partner.

Liberated through Submission: God’s Design for Freedom in All Relationships
by P.B. Wilson

For far too long, men and women have been deceived by the myths, incorrect expectations, and lopsided portrayals of submission. As a strong woman married to a strong man, author Bunny Wilson became angry and frustrated when she first heard that submission was the key to a fulfilling marriage.

In this provocative and surprising book, Bunny Wilson shares her clear and thoughtful understanding of the principles that will revolutionize your most important relationships. Using the Bible as a guide, Liberated Through Submission shares the fascinating facts of true, biblical submission and explores how submission applies to every woman – whether married or single.

God Is in the Kitchen Too: Experiencing Blessing Where You Never Thought You’d Find It (Are You Looking for God? Series)
by P.B. Wilson

Author of God Is in the Bedroom Too, P.B. “Bunny” Wilson now directs her focus to the kitchen. She enters this room with her biblical approach to daily living, and this place of function is transformed into a sanctuary of preparation, servanthood, fellowship, and communion.

From her many years of experience in kitchen ministry, Bunny shares creative ideas, family traditions, Scripture passages, and encouraging stories to inspire even those who have never before prepared a meal.

In biblical times, when a covenant was made, it was often followed by a meal. Bunny relates the significance of this tradition to our lives today as she encourages all women to create and strengthen their own covenants with God…even in the kitchen!

The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective
by Martha Peace

Martha Peace, a Biblical counselor of women, has written an Excellent Volume. Not only does it explain what God requires of a Christian wife, but it explains clearly how to obey God’s commandments in order to become that wife. Get it, read it and profit from it.

The Excellent Wife is an absolute must for women today. This book is a Scripturally based, systematic and practical work for today’s women. Within its pages is a detailed portrait of a godly wife. Not only is the standard high and holy, but Martha demonstrates that by God’s grace, it is attainable.

The Excellent Wife Study Guide
by Martha Peace

A companion study guide written and designed to provide reinforcement of the principles presented in the popular book. This is an excellent format for group study. A separate teacher’s guide is available, and both have convenient spiral bindings.


The Excellent Wife teachers guide
by Martha Peace

A teacher’s guide, written and designed to provide reinforcement of the principles presented in the popular book. This is an excellent format for group study. It has a convenient spiral binding.

The Exemplary Husband
by Stuart Scott

God ordained marriage between a man and a woman for companionship, procreation, and so man would have a helper suitable. However, God says much more in the Bible about husbands loving their wives than He says about wives submitting to their husbands. He created marriage to be a picture of the relationship between Christ and the Church. Christ was willing to sacrifice His life for the Church, and God expects no less from husbands today. The overall purpose of “The Exemplary Husband” is to assist husbands toward purposeful and lasting Christlikeness for the glory of God. It was written to be a companion book for “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace. Couples who commit to the biblical principles presented in these books will find a oneness in marriage that will give God glory and bring His blessing.

Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, the Respect He Desperately Needs
by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Discover the Single Greatest Secret to a Successful Marriage

Psychological studies affirm it, and the Bible has been saying it for ages. Cracking the communication code between husband and wife involves understanding one thing: that unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret to marriage that every couple seeks, and yet few couples ever find.

Today, you and your mate can start fresh with the ground-breaking guidance that Dr. Emerson Eggerichs provides in this book. His revolutionary message, featured on Focus on the Family, is for anyone: in marital crisis…wanting to stay happily married…who’s feeling lonely. It’s for engaged couples…victims of affairs…pastors and counselors seeking material that can save a marriage.

Using Dr. Eggerich’s breakthrough techniques, couples nationwide are achieving a brand-new level of intimacy and learning how to:

stop the Crazy Cycle of conflict
initiate the Energizing Cycle of change
enjoy the Rewarded Cycle of new passion

Love and Respect Workbook
by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional respect and how husbands and wives can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended. A companion workbook for the “Love and Respect” book.


Love and Respect
by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

The shortened audio version of the popular book, “Love and Respect,” read by its author, Dr Emerson Eggerichs. Easy to digest and understand. Listen to it while driving to work. Ideal for people who dislike reading.

What Makes a Man Feel Loved
by Bob Barnes

“What Makes a Man Feel Loved” gives wives a unique opportunity to discover what their men think about – priorities, desires, and approaches to difficult situations. The author of “15 Minutes Alone With God for Men”, Bob Barnes draws from 42 years of marriage to popular author Emilie Barnes for this title, formerly “Your Husband, Your Friend”. 300 pp.

The Politically Incorrect Wife with Study Guide
by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby

Just what is a politically incorrect wife? She’s a woman who’s married to her husband, not to popular culture. In relating to her man, she firmly refuses to bend to modern mindsets and strategies — like one-upmanship, tit for tat, entitlement, and “cold war” — that would ultimately damage her relationship with him. Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby admit, “Our marriages were in the ‘stuck’ position for years until we went politically incorrect. We thought if only our husbands would change, we’d be so happy!” Sound familiar? Do you find yourself wondering, Is there more to marriage than this? Get unstuck! Sidestep “marital gridlock” and start enjoying peace and warmth in your home again as you come into the joy and freedom of being a wife — God’s way!

Helper by Design: God’s Perfect Plan for Women in Marriage
by Elyse Fitzpatrick

There are few more contentious and heart-rending topics among women in the church than submission and what it means to be man’s helper. Elyse Fitzpatrick believes that understanding this topic can bring about great freedom and a more meaningful relationship with Christ and your husband. In Helper By Design, she takes an in-depth theological look at what it means to be made in God’s image to be a helper. No matter what your perspective, this book will set in motion great heart changes as you grow toward becoming the woman God has called you to be.

The Gentle Ways of the Beautiful Woman: A Practical Guide to Spiritual Beauty
by Anne Ortlund

For the woman who wants to be truly beautiful, inside and out, Anne Ortlund’s trio of bestselling handbooks offers all the practical “how-to’s” and thoughtful encouragement she needs. Disciplines of the Beautiful Woman, Ortlund’s first bestseller, challenges women to reshape their lives, their households, and their schedules according to God’s liberating priorities. Disciplines of the Heart focuses on the “heart life” and shows readers how to move from preoccupation with “things” to a satisfying intimacy with God. The finale, Disciplines of the Home, offers inspiration and practical guidance on creating and enjoying a family home that restores, nourishes, and blesses all who enter. Women who long for inner peace will cherish this warm, personal guide to godly, beautiful living.

Created to Be His Help Meet
by Debi Pearl

Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women have lost their way. This book is written to lead them back home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you to where you are now, it is important that you know it is possible today to have a marriage so good and so fulfilling that it can only be explained as a miracle.

It contains 27 chapters and a total of 304 pages. The book includes letters from readers, recounting couseling sessions, wisdom gleaned from the author’s daughters, her own very personal stories, and, of course, the Word of God. It includes subjects as varied as planning meals to answering extremely intimate questions.



2. Masculine and feminine energies

All the books in this section on masculine and feminine energies are by the same author – David Deida. He has specialized in books about the differences between men and women – in particular, the differences between their respective energies and how that manifests itself in love and life. Although he is not a Loving Domestic Discipline enthusiast, his writings provide some of the clearest and most sensible explanations for why the Loving Domestic Discipline lifestyle works so well. His books are very good. In particular, the first book listed here, “The Way Of The Superior Man,” is truly excellent.

The Way of the Superior Man
by David Deida

Despite its title, this book does not discuss the idea that men are superior to women. Instead, it challenges a man to be superior to other men. It is an extremely insightful book that has helped many thousands of men to become true to themselves and their own true calling as men. As a result, it has enabled them to forge deeper and more meaningful relationships with their wives. Highly recommended by Lovingdd.

What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you’re a man reading this, you’ve undoubtedly asked yourself these questions-but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now. In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men’s lives-from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality-to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise. “It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart,” writes David Deida. “It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine.” The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge-and reward-for today’s man: to discover the “unity of heart and spine” through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.


The Way of the Superior Man
by David Deida
Compact Disc – Unabridged, 4 CDs, 5 hours

The audio version of the bestselling book by David Deida. This is the full version of the book, not an abridged one. Highly recommended.

Intimate Communion
by David Deida

To truly understand your intimate relationships, you must read this book! David Deida, internationally known for his work in personal growth and intimate relationships, shares the deep understandings and effective techniques that he has refined through his 20 years of consultation, research and spiritual practice. Learn how to keep your relationships growing–beyond the sexually neutralized roles so typical of today–and create a relationship that is spiritually erotic, sexually deep and passionately committed to love.

Finding God through Sex: Awakening the One of Spirit Through the Two of Flesh
by David Deida

When it comes to sex, most of us want more. The question is: more of what? When the depth of intimacy you’ve been experiencing is no longer fulfilling to your heart and body-when you sense that sexuality should go far beyond an embrace of brief satisfaction-the time has come to explore your unique sexual path to the divine, teaches David Deida. In Finding God Through Sex, this brilliant writer and internationally renowned expert on spiritual sexuality presents a revolutionary new way to love-one in which sex literally becomes an erotic act of devotional surrender, “making love, magnifying love, from the boundless depth of your heart through every inch of your body and in merger with your lover.”

Through provocative vignettes that illuminate the many moods that color lovemaking, and direct instruction that speaks honestly to the masculine and feminine desires within each of us, Deida brings wisdom gained from 30 years of work with thousands of couples to illustrate the distinct yet complementary avenues men and women can skillfully travel toward untamed passion and sacred unity. What unfolds is an unparalleled roadmap to the place where we “love as the cosmos loves: One loving itself as an other, yet remembering itself as One.”

Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide to Men, Sex, and Love’s Deepest Bliss
by David Deida

Every woman knows the fairy tale: find the right man, give him what he wants and needs, and he’ll love you forever. But when the myth you’ve been asked to believe fails to deliver—when you sense you’ve been settling for far less than you know in your heart is possible—how do you attract and keep a man capable of meeting what you most passionately yearn for? In Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide to Men, Sex, and Love’s Deepest Bliss, David Deida explores every aspect of the feminine practice of spiritual intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to family and career to emotions, trust, and commitment. Written as a collection of letters from a man to his “dear lover,” here is this internationally acclaimed writer’s invitation to practice love as a living art, as you discover:

Why your man is always your choice—and how to pick the man of deep integrity who will satisfy the needs of your body, heart, and spirit
“Sexual essence” and the three stages of loving: how to understand your fluctuating capacity to experience divine connection with another
Daily exercises to help you and your partner move from separation to openness in two-bodied devotional trust.

Ultimately, what every woman wants is to give and receive love fully. Whether you’re partnered or alone, Dear Lover reveals that “your love is the same love that yearns to open at everybody’s heart. You will attract and inspire a man as willing and able to open as you are. Constant yearning is the call to open and give yourself to all as love’s offering.”

It’s a Guy Thing: An Owner’s Manual for Women
by David Deida

In a lively question-and-answer format, It’s a Guy Thing provides women with the reasons why men act the way they do. Based on questions from women who have attended author David Deida’s highly acclaimed relationships seminars, this must-have book puts male behavior under the microscope. Included are chapters on sex, work, relationships and communication. Interspersed throughout are sidebars that shed light on the many faces of men and help women grasp what makes them act the way they do.

Blue Truth
by David Deida

A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex. You are deeper than your life shows, and you know it. You are more loving than your relationships allow, more brilliant than your career suggests. In your secret depth of being, you are infinite, creative, boundless—and utterly unable to press your full glory into the world. Or so it seems. In Blue Truth, internationally acclaimed teacher David Deida presents a treasury of insights for uncovering your true heart of purpose, passion, and unquenchable love.

In Part One, Deida shows you how to “open as the entirety of the moment, feeling as deep inside and as far outside as you can, for as long as now opens.” In Part Two, he reveals how to walk this path in the wilderness of intimate relationship, illuminating “the art and play of sexual gifting” and how to expertly navigate the tangle of anger, jealousy, fear, and lust. “Knowing the truth is fairly useless; feeling it is profound; living it makes all the difference,” teaches David Deida. With Blue Truth, you have an unprecedented guide for living your own deep truth, and awakening “as the bare openness you are, in the free offering of love to all.”



3. General Spanking

As explained earlier, this “General Spanking” section contains a very small amount of nudity that is both tasteful and reasonably artistic. However, you have been warned. Don’t go scroll down any further if you don’t want to see it.

There are very few books in this section. The reason is because spanking for erotic reasons is covered quite extensively in a great deal of erotica and pornography, much of which is already available on the Internet. Secondly, because I did not want to list books which have a BDSM orientation, because many of the interests of BDSM practitioners vary substantially from the interests and beliefs of Loving Domestic Discipline people. In addition, there are many resources on the Internet on the subject of BDSM. It is not necessary to duplicate those resources here.

When, where and how to spank – Steve Carson

How to spank. How to be spanked. Spanking for pleasure. Spanking with love. Spanking for fun. An essential guide to adult spanking and techniques. Steve blogs at

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