Boot camp from the women’s perspective

It’s been awhile since I went through domestic discipline boot camp (like, well over a year). But, I got some requests for this entry, and so I thought I would write it anyway.

Boot camp, in one word, is rough. There’s a lot of pros to it (which I will list in a second) but that doesn’t mean it isn’t still pretty challenging. However, I’m pretty sure it was meant to suck because the point is to learn lessons from it so that you never have to do boot camp again. And, I’m pretty proud to say that I haven’t had to go through boot camp again and hopefully never will (although, I’m pretty sure with my latest stunt, I came pretty close).

If you haven’t gone through DD boot camp yet, but you and your spouse are planning on’s my warning that it’s pretty intense. For me, it was more emotionally intense I think, but for others I’ve heard that it’s physically terrible. And, it is. Don’t get me wrong. But emotionally, it makes you think a lot about yourself (which I hate doing) and the homework assignments within boot camp are pretty thought provoking and emotionally charged.

Despite the pretty intense spankings and the homework assignments (after just having been spanked..), I wouldn’t take back the boot camp experience (I can’t believe I just typed that, actually). But seriously, I wouldn’t. It really added strength to my marriage, and improved my domestic discipline outlook and relationship as well. In addition to that, it built an unbreakable level of trust between my husband and I, and that, especially when using domestic discipline in your marriage, is key.

As strange as it sounds, I really didn’t think I could love my husband any more..until we did boot camp. The side of him that I saw, although it was strict, was amazing. He took charge of situations where I’m pretty sure he didn’t want to, he spanked me harder than I’m sure he wanted to (which taught me the ever so valuable lesson of “it could always be worse”, which now makes me cooperate with every spanking I get to make it not get to that point..ever), and the list goes on.

So yeah, boot camp is rough. But, if you can get through a couple days (or, however long you do it for) of intense emotional and physical battles, it’s so worth it in the end. It improves your marriage, even when you already think it’s amazing, and it really changes your behavior (seriously, I’m pretty sure I didn’t get in trouble, at all for like a good 4-6 months after boot camp. *sigh* those were the days..).

The best advice I have to someone getting ready to do boot camp within their marriage is the following..

  • Trust your spouse.
  • Find the positive in it. (It’s there, you just have to look).
  • Look at it as a learning experience.
  • Look at it as a chance to not only strengthen your marriage, but also yourself. For both the husbands, and the wives, it pushes you to a lot of different’re going to be amazed at the strength you have, and your spouse has.
  • Just cooperate. Trust me, it’s way easier that way.

If you’ve already done boot camp, hopefully you were able to see the same results that I have, or at least can look back on it and find the positive within it. I’d love to hear your views on how it went for you and your spouse.

9 thoughts on “Boot camp from the women’s perspective

  1. I remember reading about your boot camp experience last year! My husband and I have never incorporated it as a part of our DD, but have considered it. After reading your blog this morning, I think I might bring it up again. While it sounds awful, I think it may provide a good reset for us. Thank you for posting!

    1. Hi,

      Boot Camp works for FLR couples, too. Our own guide is actually recommended for FLR couples (it contains a small chapter on female led relationships, too.)

    1. Hi,

      Boot Camp works for FLR couples, too. Our own guide is actually recommended for FLR couples (it contains a small chapter on female led relationships, too.)

        1. Sounds like it might be time for a new boot camp for Chelsea. A new boot camp level 3.0 what do you guys (Clint and Chelsea) think?

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