If you’re a follower of this blog, you’re probably expecting the new Couples Challenge post that starts each month off with an exercise of some sort intended to build upon and strengthen your domestic discipline relationship. Now that each month has its own Couples Challenge (since the blog is now one year old), I (Clint) decided to do something a little different this time around.
I hardly ever get personal on this blog. The only time I do is in the comments, and even then it’s a rare occurrence and I generally do not disclose a lot about my wife and I for numerous reasons. I’m still not going to get too personal, but I am going to open up a little bit. I think now is a good time to do so. I’m shaking things up a little. I hope you don’t mind.
My wife’s birthday was this past week. We were able to do some of the usual birthday stuff, but we’ve both been so busy that it wasn’t exactly the birthday I wanted to give her, or the birthday that she most certainly deserved. Every year since we’ve known each other we’ve gone to Las Vegas (romantic, I know) for her birthday, but for numerous reasons we were unable to do so this year. It has actually become somewhat of a tradition for us to go to Vegas for her birthday, and I know she was a little disappointed that we couldn’t go this year. I was too.
But, my wife took it in stride and handled herself well through the disappointment of it all. For those of you that know my wife a little more personally, I’m sure that doesn’t really surprise you. My wife handles even the most disappointing situations well, even when she’s under an incredible amount of stress due to both of our schedules right now. Missing out on Vegas this year wasn’t an “end of the world” type of thing by any means, but we sure do have a lot of fun when we go and it’s unfortunate we weren’t able to go this year. Sorry, honey. I’ll make it up to you somewhere down the line.
This all got me thinking. I know a lot of wives would handle this kind of disappointment great just as my wife did, but I also know a lot of wives wouldn’t. Even though a Vegas birthday trip is a luxury, it’s still something that has become traditional for us each year, meaning we both look forward to it each year, and it means a lot to us to have that “just us” time on vacation. The way my wife handled that disappointment made me realize just how lucky I am to have such a reasonable, understanding, and supportive wife.
This got me thinking some more. I remind my wife how much I love and appreciate her regularly, but I still don’t think I do it enough. I know there are times where I take her for granted. A lost Vegas trip and how my wife handled the disappointment may seem trivial to you, but it isn’t to me. It means a lot to me to know that my wife can take something like that in stride and stay positive about the situation without missing a beat. This attitude – which is a great attitude – is an everyday thing from her. It doesn’t come and go. It’s always there. It’s incredible, really. She rarely gets discouraged, she rarely gets upset, she rarely gets frustrated, she rarely gets rattled, and she NEVER gets angry. I’ve talked to enough couples to know that’s pretty rare. And I’m so thankful for it.
My wife is the most incredible person I’ve ever met. Honestly, she is. A lot of husbands will say that without really thinking about it or wholeheartedly meaning it, but I mean every single word of that. She’s absolutely incredible. She inspires to be a better husband, father, and man every single day. She brings out the best in me.
Honey, I love you. With my whole heart. And I appreciate you. You may think all the little things you do every day get overlooked and under-appreciated, but they don’t. I’m just not the best at making sure you know they don’t get overlooked. I promise you I’ll work on that. Happy birthday sweetheart. You are, without a doubt, the best thing that every happened to me and the reason I am the man I am today. I’m so lucky to have you in my life.
Personal entries may or may not become a monthly part of Learning Domestic Discipline. I suppose it depends on the feedback of this post. I wrote this post because it’s important. I wrote this post because it’s how I feel. I wrote this post to perhaps help other men understand that they need to appreciate their wives a little more than they do. I wrote this post because I absolutely love and cherish my well behaved, hard-working, incredibly smart, stunningly beautiful wife that I’ve been blessed to spend the best six years of my life with.