What is Domestic Discipline?

What is Domestic Discipline?

If you look on 10 different domestic discipline websites, you’ll probably find 10 different definitions as to what exactly domestic discipline is.  It’s a difficult topic to define since it means something a little different to every couple, but this is how we at Domestic Discipline define domestic discipline:

  Domestic discipline is the practice between two consenting life partners in which the head of the household takes the necessary measures to achieve a healthy relationship/marriage dynamic; the necessary measures to create a healthy home environment; and the necessary measures to protect all members of the family from dangerous or detrimental outcomes by punishing the contributing, and thus unwanted, actions and behaviors for the greater good of the entire family.  In addition to punishing the unwanted actions and behaviors, the head of the household is also responsible for rewarding the positive actions and behaviors in an effort to reinforce them for the greater good of the entire family.  The head of the household is ALWAYS to do this in a very safe, loving, healthy, controlled, and composed manner.

That’s a mouthful.  There is a lot of information included within that definition.  If fact, just so we’re perfectly clear, we’re going to break down our definition and go into even further detail.

A) Domestic discipline is the practice between two consenting life partners… – Domestic discipline is generally practiced among married couples.  We chose to use the term “life partners” since we feel practicing domestic discipline is acceptable between two people that know they’ll spend the rest of their lives together.  That could mean married, engaged, dating, or even partners living together for numerous years.  And, of course, this practice and lifestyle absolutely MUST be consensual between both partners.  We cannot stress that point enough.

B) …the head of the household takes the necessary measures to achieve a healthy relationship/marriage dynamic; the necessary measures to create a healthy home environment; and the necessary measures to protect all members of the family from dangerous or detrimental outcomes by punishing the contributing, and thus unwanted, actions and behaviors for the greater good of the entire family. – It is the head of the household’s “job” to protect the family from harm, even if it means protecting them from themselves.  The HoH must protect them not only in the physical sense, but in the emotional, spiritual, and financial senses as well.  It is the HoHs duty to keep the family on the right track for a safe, stable, constructive, and happy future.  The HoH is the leader.  The HoH sets the example for the rest of the family.  If that means punishing dangerous or detrimental actions and behaviors in order to achieve those things, then so be it.  This is the essence of what domestic discipline is all about.  A common misconception about this lifestyle is that the HoH is always male, and that simply isn’t the case.  The HoH can be either male or female.  It all depends on what a couple feels would work best for them.

C) In addition to punishing the unwanted actions and behaviors, the head of the household is also responsible for rewarding the positive actions and behaviors in an effort to reinforce them for the greater good of the entire family. – Often forgotten within domestic discipline is the need to reward the positive behaviors as well.  This responsibility again falls directly on the head of the household’s shoulders.  Reinforcing positive actions and behaviors will increase the likelihood of those actions and behaviors repeating, which is always a good thing in any situation.

D) The head of the household is ALWAYS to do this in a very safe, loving, healthy, controlled, and composed manner. – Never ever is domestic discipline to be done while the head of the household is angry or upset.  Never.  Yes, the dangerous or detrimental actions and behaviors can be upsetting, but the HoH must ALWAYS punish while composed, calm, and in complete control of their emotions and actions.  This practice is always to be done in a loving manner, and never in an uncontrolled manner.

This isn’t an easy thing to start in any relationship/marriage, but we believe that once you and your partner begin practicing domestic discipline, you won’t be able to imagine your lives without it.

9 thoughts on “What is Domestic Discipline?

  1. What if the TiH never does anything dangerous or detrimental? Last thing of the sort my wife did was in about 2007. Mind you, she is de facto HoH.

    Love your site, although not involved in DD. I know some who practice it, and as you say, it varies enormously. Is the consequence aspect of your relationship truly non-erotic? Or is it becoming so? If so, for just one of you, or both? Chelsea once said she might be punished perhaps only twice a year, now you speak of maintenance, for instance, seemingly a notable escalation in frequency.

    Your descriptions of spankings are of a kind many find sexy, I would add. Although I suspect that is inevitable, regardless of your intent.

    Best regards
    Geoff

  2. Not intended for display!

    To explain, curious about spanking in the erotic sense, I joined the spankingneeds forum. There being some very agreeable, intelligent, articulate folk there, I stayed. Some do DD. One thing that happens, a person will send you a private message, asking you top them for a while, men usually. In repayment for the kindness of my welcome there, I oblige with an imagined scenario of discovered misdemeanour, lecture of a questioning kind, allowing them to contribute to the story, and communicate their preferred role and age, culminating in punishment. My procedures for the latter are remarkably similar to yours, although I suspect this might be because they are fairly obvious.

    One guy actually had a hairbrush in his hand, in his motel room. I had to direct him with it. Quite common, apparently. Talk about lack of visual feedback from spanking through fabric, he was in Ohio, I am in the UK! I am straight, too, surprised to be willing to engage, although he preferred women, too. So Mom was informed, her decision was final! He had dressed in full view of the neighbour, embarrassing her. Mom summoned her, a good friend, to his room, suggested she might wish to administer the brush! My! Charlotte, you are a strong girl! What a hoot!

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