Disclaimer: Domestic discipline boot camp is not for every relationship. It’s actually really difficult (in our opinion) to tell whether boot camp is for you and your partner, or not. It’s something that you both need to agree to and something that we wouldn’t recommend for those just beginning domestic discipline.
This is a topic that, for whatever reason, seems to cause a lot of controversy. We’re not sure why that is, but it seems like almost everyone who practices DD can fall into one of these 3 categories: completely agrees with boot camp, completely disagrees with boot camp, or is completely in the dark. There doesn’t seem to be a lot of “middle ground.”
For those of you who fall into the “completely in the dark” category, We’re providing a little “boot camp” outline for you. Obviously this doesn’t include every single boot camp detail (because that would take us forever to outline) but hopefully this helps.
We’d also like to say that there are many different ways to do boot camp. This is just one of them, but because it’s the way that we did it, it’s obviously the only one we have personal experience with.
So, what is boot camp?
Boot camp is basically a multiple day (the HoH determines the length. We’ve heard of some couples doing it for 1 day, and some for as long as a week. We did it for 2 days.) “training” so to speak. The HoH determines the rules and punishments (which often times are more severe or more “out of the ordinary” than the typical rules/punishments the submissive partner would have) and, in addition to the rules and punishments, there are homework assignments and random punishments (that don’t necessarily have an offense tied to them) with “lessons” behind each one.
What is the reason a couple would want to do boot camp?
The goal is hopefully that at the end of boot camp you and your partner feel closer together and have more defined roles. In addition, it helps the submissive partner to be more respectful of both their partner and the rules, and to increase trust. These outcomes often convince a couple who already has domestic discipline in their relationship to try and improve it.
How does boot camp work?
Boot camp is comprised of the following..
- Punishments (for breaking the rules set forth during boot camp, and a separate set of punishments with “lessons” behind each of them).
- Homework assignments.
- Communication building exercises (usually this comes from the couple discussing the homework assignments after they’re completed, etc.)
Boot camp typically starts with the HoH removing all of their partner’s privileges for the duration of boot camp.
Each day of boot camp contains 4 spankings. These spankings range from mild to severe, and each one has a lesson behind it (no complaining, hold still, no reaching your hand back/kicking/making it more difficult on the HoH, and understanding that it could always be worse).
Each day also consists of 4 homework assignments. Some of these are individual ones that just the submissive partner does, and some are ones that both partners do together. There is a pretty long list of homework assignments that the HoH can choose from prior to boot camp beginning, but some examples of them are listing qualities you love about your partner, listing ways that DD has helped to improve your relationship, etc. These are always written assignments (usually 1-2 pages long).
In addition to the homework assignments and spankings, each day the submissive partner is supposed to “practice obeying” by not responding “no” to any of the HoH’s requests. Failure to do so would result in immediate punishment of whatever the HoH chooses.
So, that pretty much sums it up. Obviously there is more in depth details that go along with this, but there’s a basic overview of what boot camp is.
If you have any questions, feel free to contact us to discuss it further.